I approach the Thirtieth anniversary of the death of my
brother, I see it as a time of reflection and looking
back. It only takes an instant to reflect and look back to that date
when I was told by a Doctor and a Chaplin
in the trauma unit at Sunnybrook Hospital while
I was laying on a stretcher, that my 15-year-old brother was dead. This was the
moment in my life when time stood still. That was the moment I
wondered whether or not my life could go on. My logical side
knew that life would continue, while my emotional side
could not think about living again. The journey through
grief has been a long one.
founded Orillia Against Drunk Driving in November 1994 in
memory of my brother Tim and that has helped give me hope
and purpose. My
hope and purpose is that I can help prevent any more
deaths and injuries from occurring at the hands of drunk
drivers, that will prevent any more families from
suffering the consequences of drunk drivers through my
involvement with Orillia Against Drunk Driving.
are times I wish that there was a calendar with a magic
date circled in gold that would mark the end of the grief
and a return to life prior to our victimization. However,
there is no magic calendar and life is never the same as
before, however, I do have life, and my life can be
Against Drunk Driving helped me fill my calendar with
purpose. Through my dedication to the mission, some
semblance of meaning was restored to my life.
times I heard, "It's time you got over this."
Anyone who has been victimized by crime knows that you
never "get over" it, or the loss. Working
through grief is difficult. It is emotionally and
physically draining; you try to go forward and hopefully
put forth a positive effort to make sense of the tragedy.
was a time when I thought I would never laugh again, but
one day I tried to put myself in my brother's place. If I
had been killed in the crash, how would I want my family
to react? Would I want them to enjoy life? The answer was
clear. I would want them to laugh and love and do all they
could to make my death not to have been in vain. I vowed
that I would do everything I could to make Tim's life
worthwhile and prevent his death from being a mere
years - some days it seems like lifetime and other days it
seems like only yesterday. As I approach the thirtieth
anniversary of my brother's death, I am amazed of what I
have accomplished through Orillia Against Drunk Driving. I
did everything possible to prevent tragedy from occurring
again. My family, and the community were worth the fight.
the tragedy that devastated my family, I hope the efforts
in the war on drunk driving will ensure a safer future for
you for the memories and support.
up dated July
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